A lot of people ask themself “Why do I hate myself and feel worthless and useless?” It is not an easy question to answer.
Many of us don’t get love at home, which can make us feel lonely and worthless. Humans have a lot of needs, and one of them is to love and be loved. This can lead to a lot of negative feelings and sometimes depression if it is not met.
Even those who come from loving and caring homes feel useless from time to time. It is a feeling we all experience and it leads to the realization that you must make some changes in your life.
Others may be responsible for the problem
Having people around you who constantly speak negatively about each other or about you. This will eventually lead to you thinking negatively about yourself.
It is always best to surround yourself with people who are conscious of how they speak to others. Do not hang out with people who always make fun of others, because tomorrow they will make fun of you.
People will always have something to say about you, and you will have something to say about them too. They are just expressing their opinion, so it is up to you whether or not you take it personally, but you can choose to ignore all of that if you want to.
Everyone is valuable in some way.
In spite of your feeling worthless, I wish to remind you that every person is valuable. The more negative thoughts you have about yourself, the less respect you will show yourself.
Don’t let others’ opinions alter how you view yourself. Always believe in what you are capable of. I understand it can be difficult to come out when you’re feeling negative. Having been in that position myself, I took years to recover, yet this is something I could have avoided, but chose not to.
Over time, I learned to see myself differently and most of the things I was worried about were not bad, however, thinking about them over and over again did harm. That made it hard for me to move forward, but now I’m at a stage where I don’t care so much about things I can’t control.
Focus on the present and the future instead of the past. If you made a lot of mistakes in the past, just learn from them, but don’t dwell on them too much.
Each of us was created for a purpose, God doesn’t create people by accident. Give yourself enough love. Feeling worthless means you’re not taking care of yourself.
You are the only one who can fix this, not even a counselor or a doctor.
Did you have a bad childhood?
Children’s experiences in their childhood have a big influence on their future self-perception. People who haven’t had love or who have been abused often wonder how their lives should be.
Because of this, they attract bad partners even as adults. However, the truth is, you cannot let your past determine your future if you continue to attract toxic partners. Perhaps you are still carrying the burden from your childhood. It is time to take a moment to look inside yourself.
We will now discuss comparing ourselves with others.
Don’t compare yourself to others
If you compare yourself to others, you will always feel like you are not good enough, since there will always be someone smarter, funnier, richer, and more educated than you.
There is always someone better than you, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough. Even if they are better today, you can’t tell what they were like in the past. Some people struggled a long time before getting where they are right now, and some people continue to struggle.
Even if someone drives a nice car, the nice car may not make their life better since car payments have taken up all their income.
You will wish for something that wouldn’t improve your life if it were given to you, if you compared yourself to others.
Love yourself everyday
People will love you when you love yourself. When you show enough love to the world, it will return the favor. Respect starts from within. People will only give you respect if they feel you are worthy of it.
Don’t forget to smile and cherish your life, because that alone is worth celebrating. Practicing kindness toward yourself can help rid you of many negative self-doubts.
The more you tell yourself I am enough, the more you will believe it. It’s the same with everything else, if you say something often enough. The thoughts we have become reality.
Everything is in your head, and if you don’t believe that, you’ll never be able to succeed.
Simply believing you are good enough is a good start, but it isn’t enough. You need to take more action, especially if you have been telling yourself that for a long time.
Even if it is your family that makes you feel worthless, you can still move out and become independent. If you don’t have the money to buy a house, renting one may be your only option. This does not mean you no longer belong to your family, just that you are taking action to do better.
I recommend eliminating all your bad friends so that you can make new ones. Make an effort to feel good about yourself and stick with people who want to see you succeed.
Don’t avoid your responsibilities
Never run away from your responsibilities, no matter how difficult they may be. If a child is growing up without a parent because a parent chose to run away. This behavior is not acceptable and you should feel worthless for it.
Most of us prefer to do what is easy for us, avoiding anything that might be a bit tough. It will definitely hurt you in the long run if you do not take action despite knowing that it is your duty.
Children running away from schoolwork is another example of avoiding responsibilities, unaware that this is something that will have an impact on their entire lives.
The rewards do not come without sacrifice, so if you run away from your responsibilities, they will wait for you.
You should communicate your problems.
People should always have one good friend they can open up to and who will always listen to them. Discussing your problems and getting a different perspective on them is always helpful.
The stress we carry around daily can be eased by talking. Talking about it can help calm the insecurities of even those who think I’m not good enough or ugly. It is for this reason that a drunk person always says I’m drunk before you say it, so that judgement is avoided.
Having money can make you happy.
Don’t believe anyone who tells you money can’t buy you happiness because it can. When we are broke, we tend to have a lot of negative thoughts about ourselves. You must use the cash wisely after getting it, don’t use it to look down on others, otherwise, you will create an unhealthy circle around you.
It is possible to change our lives with cash if we use it in the right way. Having cash lets you travel, eat out, get the woman of your dreams, and a lot more. When you have cash yet still don’t feel valuable, you probably have nobody to keep you company.
It is not necessary to live a boring life. The options available to you are endless. You are not the only one experiencing depression, but some of us choose to be happy despite our problems.